Tuesday, June 30, 2009

Discovering Human Design - The Sacral Response

Discovering the Sacral Response in the Human Design System has been an amazing gift for me and my Generator son.   Supporting him in making decisions has at times been a painful process for both of us.   Since I've been helping him use his Sacral response, life has definitely gotten much easier in that area.

The yes/no response for Generators comes from a non-verbal place.  The Sacral responds to a primitive and specific way of saying yes or no.   The sounds are "Uh-huh" for yes and "Un-un" for no.

Here's a quick example of how this has worked with my son:

Every year for his birthday, I make him a special cake.  He gets to pick out all the flavors.  In the past, it has been a long and arduous process of deciding which flavor of cake, what kind of frosting and how to decorate it.   He has an open Head Center and an open Ajna Center (the two triangles at the very top of the chart.)   This mean that he can be very inspired by lots of choices.   Get him in a store with a huge variety of cake flavors to pick from and he wants them all!  Trying to make a decision from his Head, he goes into overwhelmed and anxiety about making "the right choice."   But if he makes a decision from his Sacral Center, it overrides his Head and Ajna Centers and he doesn't have any doubts at all about his decisions.  The difference in energy is palpable.

This weekend we made our annual trek to the store.  As we talked about all the choices, I could tell he was beginning to get anxious about having to make a decision.   So I said, "Let's get your Sacral response and reminded him to just answer "Uh-huh" or "Un-Un" to my questions.  As I pointed to the different flavors, the conversation went like this: 

Do you want vanilla cake for your birthday?  Un-un

Do you want chocolate cake?  Uh-huh

Is chocolate your final choice?  Un-un

Do you want strawberry cake?  Uh-huh

Between the chocolate and the strawberry, do you want chocolate the most? Un-un

Between the chocolate and strawberry, do you want strawberry the most?  Uh-huh

Is strawberry your final choice?  Uh-huh!

Are you really happy with your choice of strawberry?  Uh-huh!

We then went on to the perfect frosting and decorations in the same manner.   We were in and out of the store in 15 minutes.  At his birthday party, my son exclaimed that it was his best cake ever!   He was beaming and content and confident about it all. 

This may seem like a little thing, but using his Sacral for this birthday party made it the most relaxed and enjoyable one from over the past 11 years.   If you had been around me this time last year, you would definitely recall a higher level of anxiety from me.

The more you use your Sacral, the easier it responds.  It gets the message that you are finally listening and trusting that very powerful and wise center.   

If you haven't read the article about Sacral Response from Karen Curry yet, that's a good place to start:  http://www.humandesignforeveryone.com/articles/article/2833531/58526.htm

I'm so grateful to be giving my son this very empowering tool to use throughout his life.

Much Love,


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Wednesday, June 17, 2009

The Paradox of Choice

Barry Schwartz wrote the book, "The Paradox of Choice." In it he outlines how having so many choices can actually be a detriment and can add all kinds of stress to our lives.

I experienced the stress of choice when trying to jump into the blogging world. Which blogging service to choose? Which topic to write on? Should I just write about my family and our adventures in unschooling? If I do that, can I also talk about my spiritual journey? How can I talk about educating our children in freedom and trust without also including spiritual concepts on how to actually achieve freedom and trust. But if I only talk about unschooling, will that limit my audience to only unschooling families? If so, what about all those parents who are striving to be more respectful and conscious with their kids? And if I keep it to just parents, what about all my childless clients who come to me for energy work and spiritual coaching?

All those questions and choices kept me in indecision and non-action, until today when I decided to just write a blog on all the things in life that I find interesting and what makes up my life - a Sunday Kind of Life! Yeah, that's it. I'll write a Sunday Kind of Blog.

So here it is. All Sunday. All the time. If you are a personal friend or family member, you'll keep up-to-date on what's going on in my life. If you are an unschooling family or striving to get there, you might find tips and ideas to help you on your journey. If you are one of my clients or on a spiritual path, you might find insights to bring more peace and joy into your life. Or if you just stumbled onto my blog from taking the many twists and turn in the blogosphere, it just might not be a mistake that you are here. Stick around and read for a bit!

For whatever reason, by Divine appointment or just shear coincidence, thanks for taking a little time to be part of my journey!

Love All Ways,